Work Life Integration over Work life balance

It is difficult for working professionals to strike a balance between their personal and professional life. Also it is true that a person at a point of time plays multiple role and out of which, s/he is expected to execute different responsibilities. A person is one, but his role and responsibilities is many, and that too is to be performed within a limited time frame.  If you are a recent college graduate and have joined profession recently, your priority might be more on the professional sphere of life. You may want to work hard, often late hours for the official work, even in the cost of personal and social life thinking that such activities will help you to secure strong position in the workplace. Perhaps while doing so we tend to ignore that being overworked is a global pastime that has odds against our success. Work fatigue makes ourselves less effective and efficient. In such a case, you may slowly lose your social capital. Not being able to manage time for personal self, family members and friends, at times becomes frustrating. And most of the times, the inability to balance work and life has direct impact in the working efficiency, often leading to chaos in the personal and the family life. A life where personal life bleeds into professional life and vice-versa.

While much  is discussed about work-life balance in contemporary management arena, we find it difficult to sum-up with methods to attain the same. Professionals involved with management field and working people too find it difficult to do so. While the concept of work-life balance is already there and many management pundits are citing methods for achieving the same, a new development to this thought has developed. More than work-life balance, we need to focus on work-life integration.

The concept of work-life balance implies that work and life are totally different concepts. It means that one’s work and personal life take place within two distinct chunks of time. Meaning that when you are working you should forget your family life, and vice versa. As such, an option to address such a problem can be by working in a more integrated way in the workplace. Moreover, the recent technological development means to life that we are available 24/7. And because almost everyone demand instant connectivity and indulgence, there is literally no boundary or break.  As such, were are left with no option but work-life integration. 

Work-life integration concept has become such emerging issue in contemporary management world that we cannot ignore it. Thus the stress is more in work life integration rather than balance. Balance means that we do it because of compulsion. However, integrate meaning we need and want both things to go hand in hand and for benefit of each other. With the advent of technology, the new world reality may be that work and life get completed integrated in the future, totally irrelevant to present isolated pockets concept. 

Benefits of Work-life integration:

1) Reduces stress level in employees, makes them feel less guilty of not giving time to family while at work and vice-versa. Understanding and practicing work-life integration helps in accepting the facts that interruptions are part of life and needless of who causes them. This will help you in enhancing the greater happiness.
2) Increases productivity as stress free people exert high level of effort to get things done. They realize it early that working is also a part of life and is thus worth cherishing.
3) Improved relationship with peers as a result of peacefulness of mind. Such employees take work as part of life and their peers as part of extended family.
4) Enriched family life can be obtained as we tend to cater to the need of family as-and-when required inspite of the work schedule and working hours.
5) Enhanced team work can be attained when we feel official life as part of our life and treat the co-workers as our friends.
6) It helps us to resonate our empathy skills by being able to understand the unique work-life need of our coworkers, subordinates and seniors.
7) Most importantly, work-life integration enhances flexibility meaning that we don't have no rigid work hours or family hours. This helps us to be flexible with time to attain personal goals of professional goals

Maiden visit to Delhi

It was second time I was in India, and this time I was fortunate enough to visit Delhi, cultural and political capital of India, while enroute to Tirupati, India. The date was Monday, July 28 when Air India jet landed in Indira Gandhi International Airport.  Generally Delhi is very hot in summer ranging sometime  to 50 Degree celsius.  In contrast to congested airport of Kathmandu, delhi airport was capacious and very well maintained.  While I checked out of delhi Airport the temperature was almost double than that of Kathmandu, 44 degree celsius. Thanks to my maternal uncle who had come to pick me up.

The journey from Delhi to Gurgoan was 30 minutes car ride. Just outside the vicinity of the airport I could see skyscrapers rocketing tall into the sky. It was a real fun with the speed of the car ranging up to 130KPH, which ofcourse is difficult to enjoy in Kathmandu, provided small roads and poor traffic rules along the highways.

My flight to delhi was in late afternoon of July 28, Monday, so I hadn't had much into my to-do-list. The evening was utilized to take rest and to have a nice family time with my maternal family in Gurgoan.

Chadani Chowk:

with my aunt in Chadani Chowk

The second day of  delhi visit was exciting me as we had planned to visit various landmarks of the capital city. We began the journey with Metro ride from Hunda City station towards Chadani Chowk. In contrast to the old and wrecked railways of Mumbai and other parts of India, I found Delhi metro very well managed and cheaper also. We reached to Chadani Chowk in about twenty minutes of boarding the train.

To talk about Chadani Chowk, it is one of the oldest and busiest market of entire India. Established on 17th century by the Mughal emperor of India Shah Jahan, Chadani Chowk offers varieties of goodies of day-to-day usage. We checked out the lane where clothes, fast-food items, and jewelleries. I found the market congested and unmanaged. However I found that the market offered wide varieties of goods at a cheaper prices.



Jamey Masjid:

Jamey Masjid during eid

It was day of eid ( Muslim's greatest festival) that I was visiting Jamey Masjid. I found the masjid very spacious than that of one in Kathmandu. As the people visiting the Masjid for religious purpose was very large in number, we skipped to enter inside the Masjid. However we could find lots of muslim pilgrims wandering in and around the masjid with beautiful dresses( most of them being typical to muslim dresses) and in celebration mood.





Red Fort:
Red fort is another greatest monument in New Delhi which is said to be built by Shah Jahan, on the banks of Yamuna River, and was used by the Mughal emperors as place of residence and the political center of their empire. As we were supposed to check-in  the Red fort, we saw line of thousand of people waiting in queue to visit the fort. The traffic was high basically because of Musilm's greatest festival on the same day. We clicked some photos of the fort from outside the premises and headed-off towards India Gate.



India Gate:
We hired an auto-rickshaw,  which took us about 13 minutes to reach India gate. I had seen India gate many times in Hindi movies and in Indian news channel. The gate is a memorial to some 70,000 Indian soldiers who died in World War I. The war memorial stood up like that of Mumbai Gate in Bombay. I could find lots of people wandering around this monument and passing time. Most of people were visitors like me we were relaxing in the lush-green garden  in the premises of India gate.  After having some snacks and clicking some photos there, we marched towards Gurgoan via the metros.

Delhi Metros:
Just like when you are in Mumbai, you should not miss hanging around in Autos, while in Delhi, you should not miss using delhi metros. Delhi metros started operation since 2003 AD and serves 2.4 million people on daily basis as of 2014. While the metros are advanced and well managed based on security and system, one thing that makes delhi metro unique is the large number of people using the metro and their behavior. Well if you get a seat in delhi metro, you should consider yourself lucky for that particular day. And on top of that, to check-in and check-out of delhi metro is very difficult and is similar like winning a battle ( :D ). But if you get a seat in the metro, you can save yourself from the heat of Delhi, at least for a while. Well, for me, I enjoyed the ride in the metro for three days be it short ride or as long stretching from Huda city center to Greater Noida.

Well these well all the places that I managed to visit during my short stay in Delhi this summer. I had a flight to Tirupati on 31st of July where I was going to join college for MBA. Inspite of my short period of stay, I enjoyed Delhi. Still in my to-visit list in Delhi are some famous tourist attractions like: Qutu minar, Lotus temple, Aaakshar Dham Rastapati bhawan etc.

So, Delhi ! See you next year :)

Farewell message as President on 8th Installation of Rotaract Kasthamandap

My friends in Rotary, Rotaract , Interact and invitees.

I address you today, for the last time as President of Rotaract club of Kasthamandap.

Exactly 365 days ago, when I was entrusted with this responsibility, I entered upon it with perseverance as my tool, and a hope that I might always do the right thing. In the last Rotary year, we have seen many successes and achievements that we should be proud of. Today, our club is stronger in every respect than it was a year ago. For atleast we tried to keep things in place and I give credit for these successes to all of you-my club members.

As I leave office today, as the President of the club, my tenure will always remind me of the generous love and kindness that I have always received from you. It was both a pride and a challenge to work as President of Home club of DRR and sister organization of Home club of DIR. But I am confident that we were successful to live upto our previous expectation that each of us would be successful at the end of the day.  It was my first experience of leadership in public forum and a learning opportunity for a lifetime. It is both a debt that I will never be able to repay and a memory that I will cherish for a lifetime.

I am confident about the future of our club, and this is a best thing a soon to be IPP wishes for. I am happy to hand over the helm of the club to Rtr. Grishma and I believe this as a decision that will enable us to accomplish greater heights than ever before.  I wish the incoming team every success and pray for an astounding success.

Finally I would like to end up thanking our sponsoring Rotary, specially President Rtn..Upendra, PP Rtn. Rajan, Secretary Rtn. Sanjiv, IPP Rtn. Milan sir, for every possible support in every endeavor. Also my sincere thanks to our Interact LA, Rotaract District Committee members, friends from Rotaract clubs throughout the country and abroad, and all helping hands for their cooperation throughout the year. I cannot skip thanking my family members who were always rock-solid to support me everytime. My sincere thanks to Secretary Rtr. Bikram and Jt Secretary Rtr. Milan. You guys are behind the success of our club.

I believe we were successful enough to Engage Ourselves to Change Lives.

Thank You

Naainitaal : Travelogue

Well I was excited to visit Naainitaal since last 2 years. There were two reason for this: One, I had heard about the beauty of Naainitaal right from my childhood, and Two, I had my relatives near Naainitaal whom I wanted to visit so eagerly.  However it is obvious that only wishing and planning doesn't make your wants come true. It only comes true when you really kick off your visit.

I scheduled my visit to Naainitaal after completing my ICYEP program of my Rotaract club on March 22, 2014. I boarded a train to Kathgodam on evening of March 22 from Gorakhpur terminal. As I was travelling alone, I quickly got introduced to some passenger on the same compartment. I found them pretty humble and down-to-earth. As I was tired enough because of continuous train journey since last 2 days, I felt asleep very quick. The next day at 9 am I reached Kathgodam. The whole day went on taking rest and talking to Grandparents in Kathgodam. The very next day on March 24, I along with my father went to Naainitaal who was there for family visit. 

A bus ride of about 1 and half hour from Kathgodam and we were in Naainitaal, is located in Kumaon division of Uttarakhand at a height of around 6000 ft.  Inspite of my imagination that the lake would be BIG, the lake was small one. However I was amazed as, inspite of being small, the lake looked marvellous and offered a beautiful ambience for the tourists. The name Naainitaal is assumed to be derived from " naaini" meaning "eye"  and "taal" meaning " lake" in hindi language. Delving more into this fact, I came to know the fact reason: The Naina Devi temple located at the north bank of the lake is believed to be the same place where the eyes of Goddess Sati fell down in the ancient time, when the charred body of Goddess Sati was being carried by Lord Shiva. 

Following are the specialities of Naainitaal:

1) Peaceful and calm Naainitaal

Though the lake is not very big, the positioning of the lake makes it extraordinary. The lake is also managed properly as we can see it very clean. There are pavements along the side of the lake which makes it easy to take a walk around the lake.  Boating is very popular here and you can find different varieties of boats in different fancy colors. 

2) Culture

Naainitaal is very rich for different kind of culture. I was amazed to see religious shrines of many religion within a radius of 500m. I could easily locate a very old church (possibly St. John in the wilderness), a famous hindu shrine: Naaina devi, a mosque on the side of the cricket ground and also a Gurudwara. Also you can experience the rich culture of bhotia people, people of Kumaon and Garhwal, and almost of all the major religions of world. 

3) Shopping

Naaainitaal is also recommended for shopping of various kinds of items. For eg: Bhotia bajaar is recommended for shopping of woolen clothes and items. You can also buy some souvenirs from the local market which is famous for candle-works, masks and gifts. Also you can find different gift items made up of woods. One can also buy fresh fruits like: apples,  cherries, strawberries, blueberries etc.

4) Fun sites
Cable car ride is one of the fun thing to experience in Naainitaal, which you are sure to enjoy as it gives you a bird eye view of the whole Naainitaal area. You can also go for horse riding in the vicinity of the lake. Also, Naainitaal is famous for trekking and short hiking, wildlife sighting, high altitude zoo, botanical garden visit etc. 

This is all about what you can do in Naainitaal. After visiting the whole of the morning , we went back to Kathgodam. If you are planning for a visit and have quite a long vacation than don't forget to include other tourist attractions nearby like: Bhimtaal, Rupakhet, Khurpataal etc . 

A view that i regret to witness !! take from google. 

Goa: The city of beach

We reached to Goa on March 18, 2014 at 6 pm in the evening after a train journey of around 10 hours. The weather was really hot and the hot vapour made the journey little difficult. Nevertheless the excitement of being to Goa after some hours made us enthusiastic inspite of having a little difficult train ride.

All day swimming, enjoying beers and breezer, tasting different cuisines, trying some water adventure etc are worth mentioning about Goa visit. 

These snapshots summarises Goa visit.

Goa welcoming us with a perfect sun-set.

All set for parasailing in Baga beach

Learning to swim all day

Water game adventure, Parasailing in Baga beach

Aaajaoo on the Beach ;) , in Baga beach. 

Mumbai : The much awaited

The journey to Mumbai began via our Train to Mumbai from Gorakhpur, Lokmanya Tilak Super Express on  13th March, 2014 at around 9:00 pm. After 48 hrs long journey of Train we finally reached LTT, Mumbai on  We were very exhausted because of train journey and  were delighted when we were picked up by our friend in Mumbai. Then from there we reached Hotel Shubhangan   around 5 am. The day had nothing much to do while we only rested in our hotel. We stayed in Mumbai till morning of 18th March , during which we visited many important landmarks of the magnificient city.

Day 1, March 14

Band Stand: 

We asked the auto bhaiya ( auto driver) about nearest tourist attraction from our hotel and came to know that Band fort was one. Band Fort was something like Garden of Dreams in Nepal, all famous for the couples in love. We came to spot the place as shooting spot of many Bollywood movies like: Tarey Jameen Pey, Wanted etc. I saw sea for the first time (Arabian sea) and was amazed the water mass intensity ranging to a distance very far. 

We clicked some photos together and were also happy to see the magnificent Bandra-Worli Sea Link. 

Juhu beach:  

We visited Juhu beach and quite a few lesser known beaches. Juhu was all lighted up and glittered beautifully in the evening. The surrounding was vibrant - the foods stalls showcasing different variety of local foods, the photographer were busy spotting and clicking tourists, many mumbaites hanging around for evening walk, many tourists hovering here and there etc was amazing to observe. We also played in water, felt the sand slipping from below our feet and got ourselves clicked. We also tasted the famous local food: Pau Bhaji ( Bread and Cooked vegetable) which I tasted good. 

             

Day 2, March 15

Rotaract Stuffs:

Second day was for the main purpose of the visit. We organised a joint meeting with Rotaract Club of HR College, Mumbai and also signed Memorandum of Understanding( MOU) for International Twin Club relationship. The meeting was really enthusiastic and fun-filled. Also we were also careful to learn many new things like meeting procedures followed and meeting etiquettes. 

We saw a different and interesting way of attending a meeting and have summed up with some take-away. There were many things to learn and share between the two clubs. We got a warm reception there and planned to play holi together on March 17th. 

Gateway of India:

I was very happy to meet some of my Rotaract friends from (Rotaract Club of Government Law College) Mumbai whom I had met via facebook and had also organised some joint project between the two clubs. Though it was our first meeting, we found them very co-operative, friendly and caring. Together  we had great fun in the evening. We visited some restaurants, had punjabi food, visited Gateway of India and Taj hotel in the evening. Back to hotel we boarded on train which was not that busy like the daytime. 

Day 3, March 16

Chatrapati Sivaji Terminus (CST):

Also a UNESCO World Heritage Sites, CST was built in 1887 to commemorate the Golden Jubilee of Queen Victoria. CST is one of the busiest railway platform of India serving as a terminal for both short and long-distance trains.

We went to CST for train tickets to Goa. Unfortunately we couldn't get the ticket the same day because all the reservations were full. Meanwhile with all the ICYEP team, we paid a visit to the Gateway of India and took a ride in the ferry over the Arabian sea.  The ferry was just supposed to take a round on the sea and come back. Shopping was next on our list. We visited both small and big shopping centres in close vicinity and bought lots of items. The prices were reasonable and the variety was good.

Marine Drive:

Visit to Marine drive in the evening is one of the rarest thing to miss in Mumbai. It is a 'C' shaped boulevard of about 5 km along the coast that look spectacular during the night by the street lights along the drive. The place is famous to observe the setting sun and also for evening walk, grasping some fresh air. The place is also famous for many prominent hotel in Mumbai like: Oberoi, The Intercontinental, Hotel Marine Plaza etc.  

Travelling in Local Train:

Another thing which we enjoyed was travelling in local train. Local train system in Mumbai is extensive and  travelling during peak hours, during office hours is really hectic because the rush at this point of time is just too much for anyone not used to it. You really need lots of alacrity, patience and practice to travel during these hours. For the rest of the day, the crowd is manageable. Travelling by train gave us a firsthand idea of life of people in Mumbai. Without these trains, life of 12 million Mumbaites  becomes crippled.

Day 4, March 17

Holi In Mumbai:

We Rotaract Club of Kasthamandap together with Rotaract club of HR college celebrated holi.It was also one of the most unforgettable moment. It was a mesmerizing experience. We learned new way of celebrating and also a good chance to exchange our culture and learn new tradition. Dancing all wet was the most interesting part.

Autos:

Travelling in Autos is also one of the major thing to witness in Mumbai. It is said that there are about 300 thousands Autos in Mumbai itself. During mine stay, I came to know of most of the auto-drivers as helpful and cooperative. We travelled major part of Mumbai with the help of Auto-drivers and are also thankful to them.

What we most enjoyed during our stay in Mumbai was visiting many beautiful places especially in the evening. The whole thing was really interesting and a completely new experience for us.

Gorakhpur, India : ICYEP first day

A city famous for its massive train networks throughout the country, Gorakhpur, lies in Uttar Pradesh state of India and is one of the closest train platform from Nepal border.

A 3 hour bus ride from Sonauli (Nepal-India border) via a UP state-government bus and then you reach Gorakhpur train station. We reached to Sonauli early morning at 6 am. After a little of fresh-up and light breakfast we headed towards to cross the border. In contrast to our imagination, we cleared the border very easily. We  talked to officials in a polite manner and showed the evidence that we were to attend a program in India. And thus no hassle :)

Then we catched a UP state-government bus from Sonauli to Gorakhpur , a distance of around 3 hours for just IC 92. ( saved  from exp. tickets of private bus operators). The landscape is almost same to the plains of Nepal so we didn't had much to enjoy from the scenes .  As we had train to Mumbai in the evening, we visited the famous Gorakhnath temple in Gorakhpur and stayed there the whole afternoon. Apart  from the rest of the city, the temple seemed to be well-managed and looked after.

In the evening we reached to Train station which was to be our major transportation means for the rest of our stay in India. As many of us hadn't seen train previously , some of my friends were excited to see train passing after every few minutes.  We tried to find out how train system worked ( Indian railway is also features in HBS case study and is one of the largest employment provider in the world) .Frankly speaking , the train system in Gorakhpur  was not properly managed and seemed troublesome. We didn't know about different train jargons like : wait list, tatkal, SL class, ac-tier, train number, etc. We tried to take help from railway police, but to no avail. Finally by asking to other commoners we were able to locate our train at 9 pm  and the journey to Mumbai began.

Exhausted  for the whole day because of psychological pressure  to understand train-system( with objective to not miss the train) , we took our SL class berth and soon fell asleep ( or at-least pretended so as it was our first night in train, sound sleep was difficult ). We were witnessing the backbone of development of India and the basic means of transport in the live of billion of Indian commoners.

Visit to India : ICYEP

Visit to India was a trip planned since last two years. Back in 2012 in Rotaract we had a proposal from our then International twin club in Mumbai, Rotaract club of Government Law College for Inter Club Youth Exchange Program (ICYEP) . But then we couldn't schedule it because of different reasons. As usual then I was one of the member who so wanted to visit Mumbai.

And finally we got invitation from another Rotaract club this year for Inter city Youth Exchange Program ( ICYEP). I then approached them to come to Nepal for the first round of ICYEP ( so that in latter part I can be stress free regarding the second part of hosting and all ;) ). However things didn't go as expected and we were to make our virgin trip to Mumbai ( as it was first visit to almost the members of ICYEP from Nepal).Then began official information sharing among club members and selecting of ICYEP members. Done with selection, it was a hectic event to plan for the whole event as all of us didn't had experience of how India was like. Being a team leader it was me to had opportunity to learn many things in advance ( of course with some stress) . Learning about Indian train system, booking of tickets, managing Indian currency , counselling team members etc was sometimes tough. 

With all these things real thing that encouraged us was when we decided to go to Goa also ( was in addition to our original plan). And then until we reached Goa it was like everyone humming " aajaoo on the beach yaara photo merely khich" :D

But things that always motivated me for the visit was

1. To know about how India was.
2. To make some new friends in Mumbai.
3. To share culture and good-will with each other.
4. To explore myself in terms of leadership, confidence, team management etc
5. To avail myself of the opportunity to strengthen relationship with my fellow club members. 

And many more ...

Follow upcoming post about other exciting experience about India visit....

Review of "Subarna Shamsher: A Politics of Ethics"

Among six photographs printed in a banner of Nepali Congress, I had difficulty in recognizing one face ! However I could figure it out later with a help of my friend that I had hit the nail in the head ! A correct guess. He was none other than Subarna Shamsher-one of the founding leader of Nepali Congress.

Suwarna Shumsher is one of the founder of Nepali Congress-oldest political party of country. Though much is known about his contemporaries, B.P Koirala, Ganeshman Singh, Krishna Prasad, on contrary, very few has been explored about Subarna Shamsher. As I was longing to know more about this very person, I was lucky enough to grab a book recently published featuring the contribution of Suwarna Shumsher to Nepali democratic movements.

Subarna Shamsher was born in in the tyrant ruling Rana family that ruled Nepal for continuous 104 years.The power politics and struggle for power was so massive that it ended with endless conspiracy and massive conflicts within the family. Rana clans had to live their entire life with terror and suspicion at all the time. Adding insult to injury was when the family of Suwarna Shumsher was kept in exile from Kathmandu valley by categorizing them as "C" class Rana family who would not have a say in the role based leadership in Rana family.  Later Subarna Shamsher family left to Kolkata ( India) and settled there for business. Educated and down-to-earth Subarna Shamsher established an business empire in Kolkata by venturing successful ownership of British property at cheaper rates.

Though Subarna Shamsher was excelling in his business ventures, he could not pacify himself as he was forced to live his country and that his country was ailing. And thus the waves for changes began to start. Suwarna Shumsher vowed to overthrow the Rana rule and to bring democracy in the country. Later he came in contact with BP and collaborated with them to form a single political party which main objective would be to out-throw the Rana regime and bring about peace  and democracy in the country. Initially it was said that Suwarna Shumsher offered the then Rs 1 crore to B.P to carry-out pro-democratic movement in Nepal. With astounding support of Nepali people and financial support from Suwarna Shumsher, the revolution was successful.

Describing all about the political stories of life-time of Subarna Shamsher would be too time consuming. However, I would like to summarize of Suwarna Shumsher of as a far-sighted, morally balanced and ethically correct figure of Nepali political fraternity upon whom the current citizen can look upon. Following points proves of his greatness.

1) Sole financial supporter of pro-democratic movement of 2007 BS.
2) Supported party cadres, party and party leaders in exile continuously from 2007 BS- 2015 BS.
3) Didn't misuse power for personal benefits.
4) An intellectual figure of Nepali politics, he penned a far-sighted budget , though it was the first budget of the country (even first PM of India Jawaharlal Nehru is said to have praised him for his economic insights)
5) Didn't use state-coffer for political cadres and his own party: A man with strict financial discipline.
6) Always valued ethics, friendship more than power ( though he was offered for PM by then King Mahendra many times, he refused and proposed BP Koirala for the same and kept the part unity intact)

" 2 States: The Story of My Marriage" a Book Review

Marriage might be a private affair in western countries where people are more individualistic in nature. However in a eastern country like India, for a couple to get married, it takes to soothe the both side of the couple at the first place. It's very rare that the "to be married couple" have very nominal or not at all role in the course which would influence their life for forever. All this has been portrayed by Chetan Bhagat(C.B)  in his yet-another best selling novel "2 States".

Chetan Bhagat has been " the biggest selling English novelist in India's history" by the New York Times. Besides his previous best-selling like 3 mistakes of my life, One night at the call center, C.B has also inspired some of Bollywood movies like "3 Idiots", " Hello" and also an upcoming " 2 states".

Written in an autobiographical note, an IIT and IIM graduate C.B plots it very cleverly about the love affair between a Punjabi boy: Krish and a Tamil girl: Ananya who represent two different states of India: Haryana and Tamil Nadu respectively. C.B draws a perfect plot to the novel by beginning from the early friendship of the two fresher of IIMA who firstly get to know each other in college canteen. The relationship that begins with only friends leads ultimately to love relationship where the couple with the passage of time decide to take seven rounds in of fire ( to get married). And usual to C.B novel, the story flow gets more interesting as C.B describes the couple getting involved themselves in the pre-marital sex affairs in each-other dorm rooms ( I really wonder if all these happens in IIMA !! ;) )

The couple serious enough in their love relationship vow to marry and stat a really tedious task of taking their parents in to agreement for the marriage. After series of workouts full of discomforts and tensions(like Krish moving out to Chennai to befriend Ananya family, helping his "to be" brother in law with tuition classes etc) , they become to soothe both of their family for the marriage. Around this part, the novel is very much about the family affairs in India and how important it is to get families approval in-order to get married. Also the novel depicts it beautifully the contrasting views of the older generation with the new generations in terms of love-life relationships.

Beside the stuffs of love, relationship and ambitions, the novel attempts to convey a beautiful message about how India should be. The idea is depicted more clearly when Ananya gives birth to a twin and C.B mentions by saying that the babies belong to a state called "India"; ending inequality.  So as to develop a better version of India, its citizen ( esp. Youths) should rise above and beyond the narrow domestic fragments of caste, creed and state ( India first ! )

2States: Movie 

Apart of the usual moral lesson, I read this novel in order to know about the life in IIMA. (which the book reveals really less and out of what it reveals, I believe most of it is exaggerated and flawed :D ) However I like this book of C.B more than 4 previous book of him. And Yes, Can't wait for the movie revision of the same releasing this weekend( April 11, 2014).




Well this is just kind of light read. And don't expect to dig out some great lessons or morals from this novel. If You really love Bollywood romantic movies then this book might be a right pick.

Success story with Amica ma'am- Dwarikas Hotel

Perseverance, dedication and determination are basics to success in every business initiatives. Combined to all these there must be another factor which paves the way to success, ie. taking your passion as profession. I had read about these things in various biographies of entrepreneurs and have also experienced somewhat by myself in some aspect of life. However one fine evening, I got to know in person about the experience that a old yet enthusiastic, Ambica Shrestha had to share.

Group photo after the Interaction program

I first came to know Ambica ma’am as a hotel entrepreneur (The Dwarikas 5 star). Getting more in-depth into social life, I also came to know of her as an enthusiastic Rotarian. The wrinkles on her face was the expression of many dreams that came true by her hard work and determination, the infinite lines in her hands expressing of her old age were the representation of many more years of hard work and reflection of perseverance. As a strong old mountain she stood in front of us, with a gentle smile and in an enthusiastic tone to share what life had taught her and what she had to teach us, youths of the present.

The story began when husband of Ambica ma’am started being worried about the old wooden monuments and carvings. He had an immense love and care for the old tradition and art of the country. Slowly the passion of collecting such old wooden carvings began which would in future be one of the most successful hotel chain in the country.

It seems like an easy task at the end of the day when a person has achieved a great deal of success. However nobody understands the process and the condition that the person has to go through to achieve such a stardom of success. Getting back to past, Ambica mam says” Living in joint family was not easy then, especially when you wanted to do something different from the rest of the society”. Shrestha family then shifted from their ancestral home to Battisputali where they made a house with few rooms. One fine evening a foreign researcher came to Ambica ma’am and asked her to let the lady reside in her house for some days. After this the foreigner lady did word of mouth advertising to some of her acquaintances and helped Ambica ma’am to realize her dreams.

Getting confronted with the peaceful ambience of the Dwarikas, full of ancient monuments and sculptures, one feels like being in a heaven. Like that of in the palace of the kings of Malla dynasty. As such Dwarikas Hotel is not only a story of success and perseverance, it is also a school of many more generations to come to study about the pride and heritage of the Nepalese generations. At times when Youth like us are focusing on following hot-shot western cultures, Dwarikas remains there as a connecting bridge to the past; to feel the ancient glory of Nepalese and also to realize the tremendous potential hidden within us when we unfold our unique culture and tradition.

Life is the most beautiful lesson. It teaches you various things, confronts you with different aspects of life: ups and down, thick and thin. However, the only thing out of such circumstances is to stand rock-solid as against all adversaries. Perhaps this was also the lesson that Ambica ma’am had to share.  For a single lady it might have been difficult to stand out as a successful person in a society where people take women as a inferior gender. Her vast experience as a leader in much social organization also might have many lifelong lessons to share. However sharing of all these would not have been possible within a short period of time. And this blogger aspires to wait for another chance to meet this beautiful and inspiring lady.